I have talked about passion and values in connection with career health, but I wanted to dive deeper into this topic of my why. Mostly in relation to on how it can impact your entire life. How you must live toward and for your why every day. Hopefully, this will give some inspiration.
First, one word of caution. If you are younger your why might be harder for you to contemplate or come up with. It really didn’t start coming together for me until my 40s, and it wasn’t until I was 45 that I could actually write it out. So, if you are still in your 20s or 30s and this is a struggle, don’t worry. Determine what you can do for the moment but know that no matter what age it will continue to change.
I aspire to live as my best self in a happy and healthy life, surrounded by people (family and friends) who bring joy to my world every day. My goal is to inspire people through my actions, my words, but mostly my written words. I will use my life story to earn trust and respect of others, but, more importantly, to motivate others to be their best self and live their best life. In all my work, I must fulfill my need to have a strong connection to people, inspire them and be inspired by them as well. And in the end, in order to achieve this life, I must be kind to myself and provide self-care.
Again, don’t compare your beginning or middle to my current end. This did not come to me overnight. It has left me sleepless, nervous, frustrated and many other emotions. It has gone through many iterations. Certainly, there are things that have made it in every version including:
- Best self
- Happy/healthy life
- Connection to people
And I don’t believe these things will change in the future, however, I believe I may add things later in life. I found the key was to define things in very simple terms (like the bullets above) of what was not negotiable in my life and start from there.
Ultimately, I don’t think my why is perfect, but it is good enough for me to live towards at this moment. That is what matters, that is good enough to follow, to make decisions against and practice on a daily basis.
The purpose of my why is simple: It guides my life. In other words, it guides my every day decisions, it propels me to do things out of my comfort zone, it makes me work hard, it fills my cup, it stands for me and what I represent, and no one can take any of that away from me, unless, of course, I let them.
Every major decision I make I use my why to help decide. If the end product or goal does not ultimately allow me to become closer to living my why, or worse, it draws me further from it, the decision is easy. There is no waffling with myself. There is no “but, what ifs.” My decision making has never been clearer, easier or faster.
So, how do you create your why? My first suggestion is to start with the book “Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action” by Simon Sinek. While the title reflects this is business related, it can be used for both professional and personal lives. And let’s face it, what drives your personal life drives your professional life and vice versa.
Plus, next week I’ll break down my process for creating my why. Sign up below to be notified when the post comes out.